She would sacrifice someone for her children's safety. Inadvertently. Accidentally. She would allow her emotions to take hold and give up another's life for them. I don't mind her. I don't understand her. It's a different sort of state of not understanding than what I have experienced lately, however. More frustrating on a logical level than emotionally frustrating.
do you need to be able to understand someone in order to sign off on them taking care of sho do they need to match up to your fucked up standards when you aren't even capable of that just asking
I merely am looking for someone who will watch over him. But will not add anymore wounds than necessary. Someone who will be all right with asking him difficult and uncomfortable questions on his feelings and thoughts so that he can think about them himself. He has spent a lot of time thinking of what he should do. But he has spent little time thinking of who he wants to be. I would rather he not be coddled because it seems he gets that enough. Coddling does not help a person feel comforted; it only silences their wish to cry out. Because how can they possibly scream when they're surrounded by love?
Because I do not understand her. And your views on those younger than you has been shown to be neglectful. Furthermore... She does not even know this is what either one of us is thinking. She does have her own children. I don't know if she's even met Shouto. And if she has and has not stepped in yet, she does not want to at all. You remember and forget -- she has her own family; her own blood to watch over.
you know you should probably stop thinking so highly of your own opinion and assessment if we're going to get literally anywhere with this because you keep being really fucking wrong and that's just gonna get in the way
and that nasty habit of throwing whatever you think my flaws are at me instead of acknowledging what i said about your bullshit and how that's going to be a giant pain in the ass seriously?
it's not an opinion it's a loophole in your proposal
you'll leave and disappear into the wilderness to become one with the insects that are more your speed whenever you find someone to take care of sho you need to understand this person in order to let him go but your understandings of people are shit because you're kind of a twisted fucker with no room for forgiveness or imperfection so there's a chance that there's never going to be anyone good enough for you
set some objective criteria that isn't based on your fantasies of ~*understanding people*~ and then we'll talk about who matches up
The imperfections have to be reasonable. If Shouto's life is spared because Elda allows someone else to die to save him, that sort of situation would make both of us regret leaving her with him. And her regret having thought she had decided to watch over him.
[ Though, he realizes the thought also amuses him. ]
see the thing is that's an imperfection you made up assuming worst case scenario of people is fine if you're not judging the worst case scenario as the only evidence of their rationality and potential so shut up about the elda thing for a while
also i don't trust your sense of morals make it more objective what do you want on the list "has never killed a man"?
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And I dislike being misunderstood.
And I wouldn't know.
You must like her.
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don't phrase it like that
there's not really a "we" here
let's not misunderstand that either
she's responsible, reasonable, cares a lot about her kids
what's not to like
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She would sacrifice someone for her children's safety.
Inadvertently.
Accidentally.
She would allow her emotions to take hold and give up another's life for them.
I don't mind her.
I don't understand her.
It's a different sort of state of not understanding than what I have experienced lately, however.
More frustrating on a logical level than emotionally frustrating.
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do they need to match up to your fucked up standards
when you aren't even capable of that
just asking
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I like Shouto well enough.
I don't care about his happiness or unhappiness.
But I like him enough to see this through without cutting corners.
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fine
make this easier on me
what the fuck are you looking for
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I merely am looking for someone who will watch over him.
But will not add anymore wounds than necessary.
Someone who will be all right with asking him difficult and uncomfortable questions on his feelings and thoughts so that he can think about them himself.
He has spent a lot of time thinking of what he should do.
But he has spent little time thinking of who he wants to be.
I would rather he not be coddled because it seems he gets that enough.
Coddling does not help a person feel comforted; it only silences their wish to cry out.
Because how can they possibly scream when they're surrounded by love?
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she's done this plenty of times over
i met her kid
he's fine
rebellious but he's a teenager
it happens
can you give up the search yet
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And your views on those younger than you has been shown to be neglectful.
Furthermore...
She does not even know this is what either one of us is thinking.
She does have her own children.
I don't know if she's even met Shouto.
And if she has and has not stepped in yet, she does not want to at all.
You remember and forget -- she has her own family; her own blood to watch over.
So, I'll keep monitoring the situation.
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you know you should probably stop thinking so highly of your own opinion and assessment
if we're going to get
literally anywhere with this
because you keep being really fucking wrong
and that's just gonna get in the way
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"I'm Baren. There is a person that's kind of responsible and I like them. I will throw this child at them. Fantastic. The problem is now solved."
That is what you sound like.
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instead of acknowledging what i said about your bullshit
and how that's going to be a giant pain in the ass
seriously?
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You don't need to care about the opinion of someone you don't like.
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it's a loophole in your proposal
you'll leave and disappear into the wilderness to become one with the insects that are more your speed
whenever you find someone to take care of sho
you need to understand this person in order to let him go
but your understandings of people are shit
because you're kind of a twisted fucker
with no room for forgiveness or imperfection
so there's a chance that there's never going to be anyone good enough for you
set some objective criteria that isn't based on your fantasies of ~*understanding people*~
and then we'll talk about who matches up
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The imperfections have to be reasonable.
If Shouto's life is spared because Elda allows someone else to die to save him, that sort of situation would make both of us regret leaving her with him.
And her regret having thought she had decided to watch over him.
[ Though, he realizes the thought also amuses him. ]
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But will he be happy about it?
Anyway, objectively, it should be someone a little less morally ambiguous.
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that's an imperfection you made up
assuming worst case scenario of people is fine
if you're not judging the worst case scenario as the only evidence of their rationality and potential
so
shut up about the elda thing for a while
also i don't trust your sense of morals
make it more objective
what do you want on the list
"has never killed a man"?
[he will draft up a fucking contract for this]
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But for the sake of working together, I will.
Fine.
Never killed someone.
Never wished someone dead.
Those two seem fine, yes?
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sure.
not homicidal?
i can agree to that.
what else is on your list
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We're making a list.
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Pettiness is inescapable.
But no need to go overboard and burn a man's house down.
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fine.
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